I’m not talking about that one creepy movie, either, but rather, the engagement ring. This post has been a difficult one to write, and I am not quite sure why. It’s mostly because getting engaged is such a personal decision, and every person’s engagement is so different, that it’s just a bit hard to write about the jewelry that comes with getting engaged.
For starters, The Boy and I mutually decided that we were ready to get engaged. We had a fun conversation that ended with the question “should we go look at rings together?” and just a few short days – and many websites – later, we made our way up to the mall to look and see.
Now, before I go on, can I just say that shopping for a ring, especially one you are going to be wearing for quite some time, is not an easy task. We didn’t know where to set our budget – because we didn’t know what we liked or what would work for my small fingers. We definitely did research, but pricing for engagement rings was all over, so we really didn’t know what to expect. Our goal when we began shopping was to scout it all out – figure out what we liked, and how much we could expect to spend. At least, that’s how it began.
Our ring search led to me trying on over a dozen or so rings, of all different shapes and styles. The rings I loved in the case and on the screen – ones with diamond bands accompanying the center stone – weren’t what I thought they would be on. Other rings I tried had settings that were higher than I liked, or bands that were gorgeous but not very comfortable. The more rings I tried and saw, the more I began to realize what I wanted – and what I wanted was simple, yes, but very me.
The woman helping us at the jeweler saw the styles I was gravitating toward and very gently asked what I preferred. That’s when I asked for simple, white-gold solitaires to try. She brought me four, and the third one I slipped onto my finger was the one. A simple solitaire that was perfect. The Boy agreed, saying that he thought that we should get it and that it was perfect for my hand, my ring finger, for me, and for us.
Not long after we purchased the engagement ring (along with our wedding bands, but that is a post for another day), we texted our friends, called our families, and announced that we were officially engaged. I had to wait a few days for the ring to come back from being sized, but as soon as it was in I was thrilled to be able to wear it full-time.
While our decision to get engaged was mutual, and we didn’t have the traditional proposal moment, we are both beyond excited with how our engagement began. We have never been for the traditional proposal, so how we decided to get engaged was exactly how we thought it would be, in the end. Now, we have 13 months to plan our wedding and take the next big step in our lives together. I can’t wait.